Cinco razones para perdonar

1. Libertad. 

Perdonar nos libera

El proceso del perdón nos libera. Una vez que logramos resolver los asuntos que tenemos pendientes con los demás, sentimos un alivio enorme. El resentimiento que veníamos cargando con nosotros y que dirigía muchas de nuestras acciones, deja de esclavizarnos. El rencor deja de oprimir el pecho y la mente queda por fin libre para aventuras más creativas que simplemente estar rumiando los hechos pasados o planeando desquites. 

• Salud.

Una vez que logramos liberarnos de los resentimientos y el rencor, el nivel de estrés disminuye. El estrés crónico hace que el cuerpo físico produzca substancias como la adrenalina y el cortisol de una manera casi permanente. Estas sustancias afectan el funcionamiento de nuestro sistema cardiovascular y de nuestro sistema inmune. Muchas de las enfermedades más comunes, incluyendo la diabetes, el infarto cardíaco y muchas formas de cáncer están relacionadas con un pobre funcionamiento del sistema inmune. Es por lo tanto de esperar que una vez que logramos personar a otros y perdonarnos a nosotros mismos, nuestra salud mejore.

• Dejamos de castigarnos

 Cuando no perdonamos a otro tampoco podemos perdonarnos a nosotros mismos. Cuando hablamos mal de la persona que nos lastimó, cuando le deseamos mal, cuando entrar en contacto con esa persona nos surgen sentimientos y pensamientos negativos, nos sentimos mal con nosotros mismos, culpables, incapaces de amar. La culpa resultante nos hace vulnerables y llegamos a creer que no merecemos ciertas cosas. El resultado es por lo general que inconscientemente nos castigamos. 

• Mejoramos nuestras relaciones.

A veces la incapacidad de perdonar a otro nos aísla de los demás y nos hace desconfiados. Nos encapsulamos en la posición de la víctima y el enojo que cargamos lo trasladamos a otros. Vemos la vida a través del filtro de lo que nos sucedió con la persona a la que no hemos podido perdonar y también proyectamos nuestros sentimientos de rechazo y resentimiento, creyendo que son los otros los que no se acercan a nosotros. Cuando perdonamos, nos hacemos más atractivos para los demás. 

• Tenemos más posibilidades de construir un mejor futuro

Una vez que nos liberamos del pasado, que es donde residen nuestros resentimientos, liberamos la energía necesaria para ser creativos y construir un mejor futuro. El perdón es posible cuando hemos cambiado nuestra perspectiva y de la oscuridad nos movemos hacia la luz. Del pesimismo y la negatividad nos movemos hacia el optimismo y la fé.

May you be happy, may you be well

 

 

What brings you joy?

I love to walk in the evening and take pictures of the sunset.

Nature brings me joy.

Oh, the peace you can experience out there!

The magic moment when a sudden change in perspective takes you from “inside here” to “outside there.”

What was the most compassionate thing you experienced today?

Please share your thoughts…

Let’s stop terror with love

These are of course, days to reflect on the recent tragic events.

News have identified  Tunician Mohamed Lahouaiej-Bouhlel as the driver who drove a truck into people celebrating Bastille Day July 15, in Nice, killing at least 84 people.

After Nice, as it was after last June’s Orlando killings, or after any massacre perpetrated anywhere in the world, I feel confused, terrified, pondering how can a human being become so insensitive to human life. I strive to understand what intense pain, fear, anger or desperation existed in the heart of the assassins that led to planning and executing these barbaric killings.

Terrorists only purpose is to dominate by planting fear, that’s their real weapon. Terror expands compromising everybody’s health, safety, trust and lives in general. We’re collectively traumatized, we don’t feel safe any longer. Even silence and apparent indifference could be the result of terror… It’s more comfortable to hide, ignore, distract the pain with trivial endeavors, or adopting new addictions to stop mulling about what happened. However, I feel, something breaks inside… we’re left broken and incomplete. Our faith in humanity is shaken. What’d be the future of this planet?

While people who blindly support bigots and tyrants, might feel these tragedies are one more reason to hate, repress, build walls, divide, I feel, and wish that those who are not so blind will also see, tragedy is only one more reason to love. Love is the only thing that can heal and save the world.

Let’s become better friends, but not only Facebook-kind of friends. Let’s truly care, connect and express concern for each other. Let loved ones know that we stand there for them.

Let’s learn better ways to supporting each other, to come closer together, to understand each other, to forgive each other. Let’s remember that we’re all made of the same (stardust) stuff, we share the same essence; that when we are saying “we’re one” it is not just a snobbish slogan. Let’s make room again for poetry and laughter and joy.

But more than anything, let’s take responsibility for what’s going on in the world, by leading meaningful lives and not just this silliness infused by consumerism. Let’s appreciate life above stuff; let’s honor the planet and respect our bodies; let’s stop bigotry and hatemongering, which on the long run lead to these tragedies.

Let’s unite to stop terror.

The power of meditation

One of my favorite gurus is Osho… a controversial figure. He dared speak the truth even to the face of his detractors. He blurted blistering opinions on almost anything from the medical establishment, to corporations, to schooling, to meditation. He was a witness to the fusing of two worlds, the West and East worlds, a fusion he deemed necessary because he didn’t seem the split that characterized the world would help us go forward.

We hear often that we live in a free world, but this is just a sweet chimera. Half of the world has been and continues to be under more or less obvious oppressive regimes. This has being going on for centuries. And the West… well, just look at the media reports on the NSA surveillance and now the more recent New York Times’ report unveiling how the AT&T has a deal with the US Drug Enforcement Administration, to which it has provided with 26 years of phone call records. Privacy has gone through the drain.

Osho understood freedom and the illusion of freedom very well.

“The freedom from something is not true freedom.
The freedom to do anything you want to do is also not the freedom I am talking about.
My vision of freedom is to be yourself.”

In “Autobiography of a Spiritually Incorrect Mystic,” a compilation of nearly 5,000 hours of Osho’s recorded talks, we learn not only about his life but also about the importance he gave to meditation.

Meditation, he said, is the only thing that can give us freedom. It will free us of the mind.

Psychoanalysis and psychosynthesis, he said, work on the mind and make us more conscious of the mind. Instead, meditation makes us observe the mind and to the extent we stop identifying with it, we transcend. Transcendence IS freedom.

Osho encourages dynamic meditation and practicing it alone… if you feel comfortable with it. The group, according to Osho is for people who have grown uncomfortable with their egos. They can “dissolve” into the group and forget about their egos for a while.